There are things no one should know about you. There are things that will remind them – painfully – that you are in fact a normal human, with faults weaknesses and needs as anyone else. And suddenly, they hate you for it. Especially so if they have either suppressed or have been unable to suppress that same weakness in themselves.
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There are things that should be mutually understood. Especially if you would not like someone to do it to you. For instance, if you are a raving mad possessive, then you don’t make “innocent” jokes saying that you may get close to so and so person, even if the other person claims to be the non green eyes types.
There are dreams best kept to you. Those disgusting dreams where you wake up feeling sick to the stomach about how awfully real the dream was. How you are glad it wasn’t real. And how you are very very aware that it wouldn’t take much for them to be. And already, you hate the people involved for the fact that they could act that way. Because you know they actually could. And if you tell them the dream, they assume you think of them that way. That they have been judged by your subconscious. And in their subcionscious, they will judge you for that.
There are people who shouldn’t ever expect someone to understand them completely, all the time. Completely at a given moment- yes. That’s what magical moments of friendship and love are all about. The one night where you revealed all. But completely all the time. Nuh, uh, not happening. Don’t blame the other person – he’s only human. Aren’t we all? Don’t we all act on provocation, suddenly defending the very things we knew to be wrong just a few days ago and wondering, why did I do that? Or worse, why did I confide in him/her, assuming that the understanding would last forever. Sometimes you actually harm the relationship more. The person is too aware of too many things to see you as a person. He sees too much, reads too much into simple things, things which he/ she herself might defend were they to do the same in a different scenario.
But that is human error. The error of inconsistency. Non- linearity.
Same situation + different person = different reaction.
Same situation + same person + different time = different reaction.